Talking Surrogacy in Nigeria.
Welcome to the incredible world of surrogacy! This beautiful path offers hope and the opportunity to build a loving family for those who can’t conceive naturally. It’s a journey filled with emotions and complexities, but don’t worry, I’m here to guide you through every step; with a reality check. Let’s take a closer look at how to embark on the surrogacy adventure, from assessing suitability to starting this amazing journey of a lifetime.
Assessing Suitability.
Before diving into the surrogacy journey, it’s important to take a moment to reflect on your readiness. Are you emotionally prepared for the roller coaster ride ahead? Consider the deep emotions that come with entrusting another person to carry and deliver your precious child. It’s essential to be open to the unique dynamics of the surrogacy relationship and be prepared to confront any emotional challenges that may arise along the way.
The Cost Aspect.
Let’s also talk about the financials. We understand that surrogacy can be a costly endeavor, but rest assured that we will help you navigate this aspect. Together, we will ensure that you have a clear understanding of the financial commitments. We’ll be upfront about the financial commitments involved and help you explore all available resources to make it work for you, including discounts. It’s not always easy, but with our guidance and expertise, we’ll help you make your dream of having your children become a reality without any ‘surprises’ along the way.
You Need Support and Care.
Also, don’t forget about the power of support networks. Surrounding yourself with caring individuals, whether they are family, friends, or support groups, can make your surrogacy journey feel less overwhelming. Having someone to lean on, who truly understands the complexities of surrogacy, can provide both comfort and guidance throughout your path to parenthood.
Lastly, the best decision you can make is to choose the right people to work with on this journey. Spending time weighing your options for both affordability and quality would save you some emotional strain in the long run. An overinflated cost doesn’t guarantee success and the other way around. Pay attention to the little details and do not run faster than your shadow. Surrogacy requires a lot of time and patience, with a strip of luck maybe. Do not play too smart with yourself. For instance, getting a surrogate from Agency A and a donor from Agency B, then freezing your samples- sperm, eggs, and embryos with Clinic C and registering for IVF at Clinic C. This is already looking clumsy and tacky. You just dug up a pitfall for yourself.
Best Approach.
Engage a Surrogacy Agency -They recommend their best-to-work-with or partnering clinic with high pregnancy success rates for cryopreservation/Fresh donation of your samples for your IVF treatment, whilst providing you surrogates and donors to work with. They also engage surrogacy legal professionals for binding documents in line with surrogacy law.
Pros:
- Stress-free
- Swiftness in getting donors and surrogates
- Transparency among all parties
- Good for starters in surrogacy to aid easy navigation
- May have access to private information from the clinic which may have been kept from the Ips.
- Completely invested into the entire procedure, from Pre IVF/Prenatal stage up until delivery.
- They help simplify the entire procedure for a beginner or a layman.
Cons:
- The Middle man “thingy”- problems that come with having a middle man.
- The monopoly of procedure could set in later preventing transparency
- Some are not professionals and might be naive about the clinical aspects of IVF and surrogacy just as you are, but can match you with a surrogate or donor successfully.
- Billing may be uncertain as flying costs may come up while on the procedure and agencies may not have great financial muscle to cover up these unplanned costs ahead for the IPs.
- Unregistered agencies or surrogacy agencies without a physical location could abscond with funds if a crisis occurs along the way, and they see no solution in sight (happens mostly with unprofessional and fewer times with professionals, especially in developing countries).
Engaging a Fertility Clinic
They handle the entire procedure from start to finish which includes the clinical aspect (IVF), surrogacy, and legal aspects. This may or may not include pregnancy care throughout gestation, depending on the clinic.
Pros:
- Stress-free
- Professionalism
- All-inclusive Bill
- Financial stability to cover running and unplanned costs while expecting payment from the IPs
- Medical emergencies are attended to faster.
Cons:
- Longer waiting time to get a surrogate or donor
- Monopoly prevents transparency among all parties.
- Hidden secrets that may never reach the public eye to save business image,
- Clinics are mostly overwhelmed and may not give maximum concentration per surrogate
- Some clinics are majorly for-the-profit, not necessarily the success of the procedure hence are not invested emotionally in the process
- Some fertility clinics perform IVF only and exclude themselves from surrogacy or pregnancy care. This leaves the IPs stranded and left with little options on how to navigate the remaining part of the journey.
- The process might appear ambiguous to beginners on consultation which might cause newbies most likely to get swayed away into making payment for ambiguity over quality assurance.
Initiating the Journey
Now that you’ve evaluated your readiness and determined that surrogacy is the right choice for you, let’s dive into initiating this extraordinary journey! Finding a surrogate is one of the first steps, and we’re here to assist you every step of the way. Whether you choose to partner with a surrogacy agency or explore personal connections, we will support you in finding a surrogate who is the perfect match for you and your family.
Understanding the legal requirements is crucial to ensure a smooth and worry-free surrogacy journey. Our team will guide you through the legal aspects, ensuring that you are well-informed and compliant with the laws in your region. From contracts to parental rights, we’ve got you covered with trusted legal professionals who specialize in surrogacy law.
Clear communication and establishing expectations are the foundation for a harmonious surrogacy experience. We encourage open and honest communication between intended parents and surrogates. While we acknowledge that traditional societal norms may suggest limited contact between parties, our utmost priority is to ensure that all aspects of the process are supportive, respectful, and compassionate. We believe in establishing open channels of communication and setting clear expectations that will ultimately result in the birth of a precious new life, flourishing with love and joy. We are here to support both the intended parents and surrogates across the entire surrogacy process and beyond. Remember, this is a journey built on compassion, respect, and a shared goal of bringing joy into the world.
Embarking on the surrogacy journey is an incredible step towards creating the family of your dreams. Through careful assessment of suitability and thorough preparation, you are equipped to navigate the emotional, financial, and legal aspects that lie ahead. With our warm and dedicated support, we will be by your side as you embark on this magical adventure with hope, love, and excitement. Let’s create your beautiful family together!